A conscious self-pleasure game for gay men
Welcome to a different kind of self-pleasure. One that rewires how you experience sensation and arousal in a new, expanded and unique way. Working with playfulness, curiosity, slowing down, breath and deep presence you will expand your sexual language and discover a new erotic ecology.
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Clear time and space for yourself. Half an hour is usually a nice amount of time. But if you only have 10 minutes, that's good too. Make this ceremony. You are meeting yourself in a new way. Treat it with respect and reverence by setting the space, getting the lighting right, organising music if that feels good, lay a blanket and get some oil.
Every card with a timer has one for a reason. When the timer goes off, you stop and integrate. This is what makes it a practice rather than just another wank! The timer keeps you from sliding back into autopilot and old habitual patterns. Trust the container and it will hold you. Even if you want to carry on, stop when the timer goes off.
These three are your best friends throughout every practice. Explore breathing that is deep and slow as well as fast and shallow. Let sounds escape you: moans, sighs, growls, whatever wants to come. Move your body, shift positions, rock your hips, arch your spine, get on all fours. Stay alive and present and in your body.
After every session, lay in stillness for at least 3 minutes. This is non-negotiable. Eyes closed. Let everything you stirred up ripple through you. This is where the rewiring actually happens. Don't skip it. Don't rush it. Let your nervous system absorb and install.
Some practices will be extremely arousing and sensitive. Others may feel numb, boring or like nothing is happening. Both are part of the practice. Stick with it and stay curious. Sensitivity and arousal grow over time. Do the practice until the timer goes off and be completely OK with whatever shows up, even boredom. Your body is learning something new.
You can follow a suggested flow through the decks, building from warm-up to deeper practices, or you can browse freely and trust your intuition about what your body needs today. Take a few practices from each deck intuitively. Do what you're drawn to and skip what doesn't resonate. But do experiment and explore with new things. You might be surprised.
Intuitively choose a few exercises from each deck or let me curate a randomised journey for you!
Tap to reveal your practice
Close your eyes. Let the practice settle into your body. Breathe. Feel everything that was stirred.
A chime will sound when stillness is complete
Lay down in stillness for 3 to 5 minutes. Eyes closed. Let the experience ripple through your nervous system. Feel what's tender, open, new or charged. This is where the real rewiring happens. Don't skip this. It's the most important part.